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Unequally yoked in marriage/or not
|Add a little more detail (optional):||Looking for biblical(or even personal) opinions on how far it is acceptable or wise to stretch for love in a perspective marriage. More specifically, assuming both individuals are saved and are in agreement on the basics of the faith how great is the importance in a marriage of significantly differing standards on things such as music, dress standards, bible versions and so on? I have had some married people tell me(even conservative ones) that such things are of considerably less importance than truly loving the person and that the person you marry today will not be the same person you married today in twenty years anyway and that every couple changes, grows together, and works things out step by step as they go along. Essentially the advice was that as long as both people are saved and agree on some very basic doctrinal points things like standards should not be allowed to take precedence over true love since people and standards change and true love does not. I am torn about the wisdom of that advice. Part of me would very much like that to be true and part of me is very concerned about the risk of doing something stupid due to love. Of course I realize in a sense this kind of thing must be a personal decision but I would appreciate some perspective from married Christians.