heartstrings

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  1. A Forum Bible Study On 2 & 3 John

    Thankfully, It isn't that way at my church. But some men, many men, even though IN church become "disengaged". I don't have this all figured out but I have observed a few things over the years. In some churches, the men are shamed and belittled while the women are coddled. On Mother's Day, the mothers get a flower and a nice sermon praising mothers while on Fathers Day the men are beat on for not "leading the home" and for being failures who never measure up. If the pastor wants a lady to do something, anything at the church, he sidesteps the Husband and asks her directly. The women are endeared to the pastor and his leadership instead of the husband's because the pastor 'has it all together' while the husbands don't.. Men get tired of disrespect and constant verbal abuse, and they can never be encouraged to be the leaders in their homes until that changes. It has to be done the the Biblical way.. Otherwise, why bother going to church? Get down to business the way the Bible outlines it. Choose a couple of Godly, joyful, spiritual, humble old men (not 'knowitalls") to teach the younger men and likewise with the ladies teaching the younger ladies. Fathers will learn how to treat Mom and the kids, Mom will learn how to treat Dad, the kids will follow suit and everybody's happy. :) If you preach to the ladies, preach to the men in the same sermon; that's what Peter and Paul did. In other words, ladies are really no more godly and spiritual than men are, and vis versa, but "the system" is messed up. The first step is "humbling ourselves". 2 Chronicles 7:14 If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.
  2. They will increasingly demand more, and get more hostile as well....... Genesis 19 4But before they lay down, the men of the city, even the men of Sodom, compassed the house round, both old and young, all the people from every quarter: 5And they called unto Lot, and said unto him, Where are the men which came in to thee this night? bring them out unto us, that we may know them. 6And Lot went out at the door unto them, and shut the door after him, 7And said, I pray you, brethren, do not so wickedly. 8Behold now, I have two daughters which have not known man; let me, I pray you, bring them out unto you, and do ye to them as is good in your eyes: only unto these men do nothing; for therefore came they under the shadow of my roof. 9And they said, Stand back. And they said again, This one fellow came in to sojourn, and he will needs be a judge: now will we deal worse with thee, than with them. And they pressed sore upon the man, even Lot, and came near to break the door.
  3. Amen Kirk.

    That's where faith and faithfulness comes in. All marriages go through difficult times and the devil targets everyone involved; wife husband and kids. So if your wife is going through midlife or whatever, put a smile on your face and love her anyway...actively love her; say sweet things, do sweet loving things for her. That's what it's all about bro. It will pass, and it is definitely worth it.. 1 Corinthians 7: 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. 15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. 16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife? Notice the sentence "God hath called us to peace". Neither husbands nor wives can "sway" anyone, particularly our spouses, by persuasion (nagging). Not saying anyone here does: but only submission and loving will work. It's all right there in 1 Peter 3:1-13
  4. Amen Kirk.

    No, my view of "defying" or "not submitting" in such a situation would consist of doing things that you know will aggravate, or in talking back/arguing with an abusive, angry person who can't control themselves.. It's never OK to physically abuse your wife (or husband in some cases) so I don't see leaving as a failure to submit; if someone is hurting you, you need to get away NOW, do not wait. There is no excuse for it and they have crossed the line with the first incident.
  5. Amen Kirk.

    You know, physical abuse wasn't what I had in mind at all when I posted that; there are many ways to abuse besides physical abuse. . But methinks that complete submission would, more often than not, serve to prevent things from escalating to that point. The "perfect woman", behaving as outlined in 1 Peter 3, could often prevent abuse from such an ungodly, unloving, cowardly "angry man" because her "meek and quiet spirit" could diffuse it. A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. Proverbs 15:1 However, since there are many wives who haven't yet reached that level of spiritual maturity. and some do have problems with manipulative, deceitful, unloving, "odious" spirits, and "brawling" ways, then the husband has to do his part and love them anyway. And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8 But I have to disagree with one thing you said: I don't know anywhere in the Bible which tells a wife to "stop submitting". It does say to Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: Proverbs 22:24 so I would say that it would be best to just quietly leave for safety's sake. Maybe God will handle the rest? Many years ago, a first cousin of mine was being physically abused by her first husband. One day her Dad and one of my other uncles paid him a visit, Though neither of my uncles were saved at the time, when they were finished with him, I suppose they may have taught him something about right and wrong because, as far as I know, he never abused her again. ,
  6. Trying To Find TRADITIONAL Wedding Vows

    I would get them from places like 1 Peter 3 1 Corinthians 7 Colossians 3 Ephesians 5 and probably a couple more
  7. God Is Love

    ..........and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him. The evidence of this goes beyond even loving our neighbor as ourselves; because that is how God loves. Matthew 5 43Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy. 44But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; 45That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust. 46For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same? 47And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so? 48Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.
  8. Amen Kirk.

    That is exactly What the Bible teaches: The older are to teach the younger. The old men teach the young men and the older ladies teach the younger ladies. I believe if we did that, and it was done the Bible way, there would be MUCH happier and more stable Christian homes. But in my present Sunday school we have mixed (male and female) whereas the teacher is a younger man than myself and his wife calls him down at times and CORRECTS him while he teaches. I love them both but, I'm sorry: that AIN'T Biblical. But a good, "sober", Godly, compassionate and wise old man could teach younger men because he has EXPERIENCE. He has already done and seen some stupid stuff; made the mistakes of life and KNOWS the pitfalls and heartaches. The older ladies are likewise. WOW! Why don't we do that? Not only can they teach HOW to be a good wife/husband, but many know how NOT to be. What a treasure trove of wisdom, understanding, and knowledge.
  9. Amen Kirk.

    "Wives are to honor and respect and follow their husband's lead, not to tell their husband how he ought to be a better husband," he says. "When each person gets their part right, regardless of how their spouse is treating them, there is hope for real change in their marriage." http://www.msn.com/en-us/tv/celebrity/kirk-cameron-says-wives-should-honor-husbands-not-tell-them-how-to-be-better/ar-BBsqSil?li=BBnb7Kz&ocid=DELLDHP
  10. a wife

    Proverbs 18:22King James Version (KJV) Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.
  11. Why are Christians voting for Donald Trump?

    But seriously, we'll never hear Hillary, Bernie, or Trump talking like thus...... http://www.ijreview.com/2016/04/585806-ted-cruz-answered-abortion-question-with-story-about-his-daughter-it-left-the-audience-silent/?utm_source=Facebook&utm_medium=Social&utm_content=floating-sidebar&utm_campaign=Sharing
  12. Why are Christians voting for Donald Trump?

    I've already made my decision........
  13. Was Simon the Sorcerer a Genuine Believer in Acts 8:13?

    #5 Being "in the gall of bitterness" he repented and basicallyentreated for forgiveness after Peter had rebuked him. That's remarkably humblefor a man who had just been very exalted, powerful and proud. I think he made his first mistake as a "baby Christian" and passed the test.
  14. The Curse was a good thing?

    My thinking on this, is that if we had no pain, no thorns and thistles, sweaty faces, no trials and tribulations, suffering or death, we would be in a state of Godless utopia. We wouldn't need to pray or even need God at all. So, yes, I think these things can work for our good. The very nature of "nature" (hey..I made that up) hehe, shows us all that, yet nature displays good and perfection too; it teaches us there IS something much better than the troubleswe have in this world. Just my .02 I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the LORD do all these things. Isaiah 45;7
  15. WARNING THE WICKED IS LOVE

    Absolutely. The Bible says he is "love", "the way", "the Truth", "the Light", the "I AM", the "Prince of Peace" the Mighty God. the "Everlasting Father", the "King of Glory"( I particularly like that one)....And how can the "evolutionists and atheists" get that? By seeing "the light" in us shining before them. They must "see" the righteousness of God part along with the "you are a sinner" and the "you're on your way to Hell" part.