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For crying out loud we are not all the same. A husband is not a wife and a wife is not a husband anymore than a truck and trailer are the same. You can have an old 1950s pickup with a beautiful 2013 fully-loaded trailer - but one is built to LEAD and the other is NOT, regardless of how shiny the metal on the outside happens to be.
The Bible says that the wife is supposed to submit to the husband like the church is supposed to submit to Christ. What is so hard about understanding this? Why is this conversation going so long?
KindofBlue, what you call the hierarchy is what is commonly known as the order of the home. It blows my mind how you keep talking about it like it's a matter of opinion or philosophy when it's one of the clearest things you'll find in the New Testament.
You are supposed to be the head of the home, you are supposed to have the final say on things. That's what the Bible says. It doesn't mean you become some tyrant that doesn't listen to other people. I spend most of my time probably doing what my family wants, it just means that I have the final say on things.
The man is supposed to love his wife like Christ loved the church. The man is supposed to give his life for his wife as Christ did, but as we are to submit to Christ so too is the wife supposed to submit to the husband. This is verrrrrrrrry clear in the Bible.
When world view clearly and undeniably bucks the Bible, then world view isn't worth a pile of beans and needs to be thrown out.
A: The Bible states clearly in the New Testament that a wife is to be in subjection and submission to her husband. He is to be in submission to God and to be the head of the home, she is to be under his authority.
B: I'll repeat again the three scenarios that always ring true when there is an able-bodied husband at home and the mother (not a woman without kids) is working outside the home:
1) They'd rather have more income than have a mother at home with the children.
2) They do not want to lower their standard of living in order to have a mother at home with the children.
3) The husband is unwilling to get a second job in order to meet the needs of the family.
(As previously stated, I'm not very sympathetic to people's stories because we lived it and I worked three jobs to keep my wife at home with the kids.)
C: Whenever these conversations come up, people always make them situational and not biblical. Then the situations always fall into 1, 2, or 3 under point B. Never is a biblical case made for leaving childen in the hands of other people to raise. Still waiting for a biblical case.
D: Should anyone think that I'm a sexist and not entitled to these opinions, I'd remind you that my wife wrote the book, not me. It originally was a blog of hers that I suggested she turn into a book. She is waaaaay stronger on this stuff than me. If were gonna talk biblical finances I bring her into the room, if we gonna talk escatology - then I come in.
I don't think there's anything biblically off about that at all.
Notice I said "I've never run into a case where a mother..." as in a mother with kids at home. I don't think there's anything unbiblical with a WOMAN working outside of the home so long as she is still operating under the authority of her husband - it's when kids are neglected because the MOTHER is not a keeper AT home.
I've never run into a case where a mother, who was married to an able-bodied man, had to work outside the home. Every situation I've ever seen is because they wanted more money, didn't want to give something up or the husband didn't want to work more to earn the needed money. In other words, something was more important than the kids and the biblical admonition to be a keeper AT home.
When the bottom fell out in 2007 I had to work three jobs to keep my family afloat. My wife worked as a piano teacher from home during that time as well. I worked normal hours and also at night when my family was sleeping.
We cut and cut and cut, and my income went up eventually to where I now only work two jobs and my wife homeschools the kids with no additional income. I'm blessed to work normal office hours and to write on Tuesday nights and Sunday afternoons (when people are napping). We still struggle (I'm an "okay" writer, not a good one!) but God is very good to us and we always make it.
It CAN be done. By doing it that way we've ensured that WE raise our kids, not someone else. Words cannot express the goodness that comes from that, it is a much greater reward than any amount of money.