BioBorn again since 1995
Beautiful wife and 3 boys.
Raised Presbyterian never heard the gospel.
Went to a Vacation Bible School with a friend to a fundamentally sound church that preached the Gospel. First time being told about Jesus I accepted Him as my savior.
Deuteronomy 22:5 1 Timothy 2:9 Exodus 28:1-4 The whole chapter shows that the priests dress a certain way. They were not to go into the holy place without these requirements. Who are the priests today? 1 Peter 2:5-9
Bottom line is conviction from God about how you dress outweighs any outside push to get you to dress right or wrong. By the way, if you do dress to fit your convictions people will give you a hard time. People that you never thought would say a bad word against you will make little smart remarks trying to discourage you. If you're asking this for yourself then I think God is already dealing with you in the matter. BUT if you're trying to get ammunition to get someone you love to dress different it WILL NOT work. God has to put that in them if it is going to stick. You cannot control who wears what in the church BUT you can have standards for what people that serve in the church wear (choir, teachers, deacons, ushers, preacher, special singers, etc.) I will tell you a secret in psychology so to speak. I guarantee that the women in the church notice what other women wear. If good Godly women dressed properly, it wouldn't be long before others started changing their dress code as well. Titus 2:3-4
Legalistic is the word used to battle convictions. There is nothing wrong with the word legalism. If you're on the right side of legalism then you have what we call standards. Usage of the word legalism today is nothing more than a rebellious spirit. If you would submit yourself biblically then it's more understandable. Don't let the flesh ruin other peoples set of standards.
If something illegal is going on in a house that is in your name you can be the one put in jail.
Illegal activity....call the law.
If your neighbor knows about drugs being used they would prOBably call the law. If you knew your neighbor was dealing with drugs you'd prOBably call the law on them.
Don't be sneaky about it just tell them all together at the same time that illegal drug use will not be tolerated in your house and that you will call the law if you see or smell it again.
You are called to be submissive to your husband....don't get me wrong.
If someone breaks into anyone's house on this forum don't think they're quoting "thou shalt not kill" They are going to protect their family and themselves by whatever means that may be.
Be proactive. Be the one that goes after things for him and just don't bring the bad stuff back. If your kids are going and getting things remember they're supposed to be submissive to you as well.
My uncle had cancer and was on oxygen. He smoked as well. One night he fell asleep on the couch and when he woke up he lit a cigarette and the oxygen exploded. He was burnt internally from his lungs out to the tip of his lips. He never came home from the hospital after that.
You also have the responsibility to do what's right by your children as well. Don't let them play the pity card on you by having cancer. If it really worried or bothered them then they wouldn't be smoking. Some people use a traumatic thing like cancer as an excuse to do whatever they want to sometimes. I truly hope you find the right answer for what you're looking for. In all things seek to honor Christ and let that guide you.
P.S. try febreze. It's decent about removing smells. They also make special ashtrays that help reduce smell as well.