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#1 Alimantado

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Posted 24 October 2013 - 06:12 PM

I found out this afternoon that several days ago my father had walked into the local constabulary and confessed to sexually abusing my older step-brother when he was about six years old.

This confession was precipitated by an impending visit by my father and my step-mother to see my step-mother's children, who now live abroad with families of their own. Athough my step-mother had visited before, this was to be the first time my father accompanied her, and I think the prospect of my father being in the presence of my step-brother's children for the first time was what provoked my step-brother to tell his mother what he has presumably been keeping a secret all his life.

After my step-brother revealed this to his mother over the phone, she asked my father whether the story was true and he said it was. My step-mother then travelled to her family early, via an open-ended ticket. Meanwhile my father, after hearing that my step-brother intended to go to the police, handed himself in.

This all happened last week but my sister, my brother, my mother and I only found out this week when the child protection agency telephoned my sister to inform her of our father's confession and to advise her that since her own children had spent time with our father unsupervised (babysitting etc), they would be interviewing both the children as part of the police investigation into our father's activities.

My mother informed me of this phone call today and of course she asked me whether my father had ever abused me. He hasn't and as far as I know nor has he abused my blood siblings. My father's confession is a revelation to us all. I realised after talking to my mother that nobody knew my father's whereabouts, so I left work and drove to my father's, where I found him at his home awaiting his next summons to the constabulary.

My sister is beside herself, as she does not know whether my father has abused her children, now 6 and 9 years old. My father will probably go to jail and when released will likely have to move away from the area. I don't know whether my sisters' or my brothers' families will see my father again, nor whether he will ever again see his grandchildren. I expect I won't ever see my step-family again.

Please could anyone pray for my poor step-brother and for my step-mother. I do not know their current circumstances other than that they are with family. Please pray for the state of my family, emotionally and spiritually. All of them are lost and I've never really shared the Gospel with them; I've not long been a believer myself, not that that is an excuse. Please pray for my niece and nephew. And please pray that justice is done with respect to my father.



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Posted 24 October 2013 - 06:38 PM

I will certainly lift you, your family and all this to our Lord in prayer.



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Posted 24 October 2013 - 07:05 PM

Praying for you and your entire family.

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Posted 24 October 2013 - 08:28 PM

So, so sorry for all this! We will certainly be praying.

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Posted 24 October 2013 - 08:40 PM

Wow, prayers for all involved.

 

I would like to say one thing. It seems this father did the right thing, when it came out, he confessed, & did not deny it.

 

Like your step brother & other family members who needs prayers & friends, your father does also being as he is not denying it.

 

Unlike your father, many will deny it & claim the children are lying in order to save face. If he is guilty I hope & pray that he does not change his story & he will find forgiveness from God, & some of God's children will give him godly support advising him to confess it to God & face the consequences of his sins.

 

Thank you for sharing such a difficult thing.

 

God bless,

Jerry



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Posted 25 October 2013 - 12:27 AM

Wow, prayers for all involved.

 

I would like to say one thing. It seems this father did the right thing, when it came out, he confessed, & did not deny it.

 

Like your step brother & other family members who needs prayers & friends, your father does also being as he is not denying it.

 

Unlike your father, many will deny it & claim the children are lying in order to save face. If he is guilty I hope & pray that he does not change his story & he will find forgiveness from God, & some of God's children will give him godly support advising him to confess it to God & face the consequences of his sins.

 

Thank you for sharing such a difficult thing.

 

God bless,

Jerry

 

Let's not applaud this man just because he turned himself in. He sexually abused as least one child that we know of and knowing most pedophiles it's never just one victim. He only turned himself in when he was coming up against a wall with no where else to go either on his on own or in handcuffs.

I did and will continue to pray for this family, but there are consequences to sin and some are very long lasting, one, being to the victims, and two that the pedophile may not see his grandchildren again.

I know that all sins can be forgiven but not all should be forgotten by those around him and pretend they never happened, especially when children are involved! I know that can be common within families, to just 'keep it in the family'.



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Posted 25 October 2013 - 12:44 AM

There is sin and depravity in every family and this sad event illustrates everyone's need for Jesus Christ.

 

The father could certainly assuage fears by letting the family know if there are any other victims.  More importantly, he needs to be forgiven.  Not an easy thing to do but it's a bible truth.  

 

This is an opportunity to spread the gospel Alimantado.  Only Christ can heal their wounds and give them peace and everlasting life instead of the fiery hell that they deserve.



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Posted 25 October 2013 - 05:35 AM

I will be in prayer for all involved.  It is not my business to condemn any of them, nor to praise them, God will sort things out His way.

Sorry for you too, that you are caught in the middle of all this.



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Posted 25 October 2013 - 01:07 PM

Let's not applaud this man just because he turned himself in. He sexually abused as least one child that we know of and knowing most pedophiles it's never just one victim. He only turned himself in when he was coming up against a wall with no where else to go either on his on own or in handcuffs.

I did and will continue to pray for this family, but there are consequences to sin and some are very long lasting, one, being to the victims, and two that the pedophile may not see his grandchildren again.

I know that all sins can be forgiven but not all should be forgotten by those around him and pretend they never happened, especially when children are involved! I know that can be common within families, to just 'keep it in the family'.

 

I was not applauding him, I just going by what the Bible tells us, & it is what we are to go by, not our emotions

 

And its a fact, most never admit. And we must remember what Jesus has told us.

 

Mt 6:15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

 

Mr 11:26 But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.

 

Lu 17:3 Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.

 

 

And  David only confessed when he was confronted just this as this father did, you could say David was up against a wall too. In fact we all are, for any sin we commit, we commit against God, who knows everything we do.

 

 

2Sa 12:5 And David's anger was greatly kindled against the man; and he said to Nathan, As the LORD liveth, the man that hath done this thing shall surely die:
2Sa 12:6 And he shall restore the lamb fourfold, because he did this thing, and because he had no pity.
2Sa 12:7 And Nathan said to David, Thou art the man. Thus saith the LORD God of Israel, I anointed thee king over Israel, and I delivered thee out of the hand of Saul;
 
God forgave him, but David faced many consequences after this for the sword never left his house.
 
2Sa 12:8 And I gave thee thy master's house, and thy master's wives into thy bosom, and gave thee the house of Israel and of Judah; and if that had been too little, I would moreover have given unto thee such and such things.
2Sa 12:9 Wherefore hast thou despised the commandment of the LORD, to do evil in his sight? thou hast killed Uriah the Hittite with the sword, and hast taken his wife to be thy wife, and hast slain him with the sword of the children of Ammon.
2Sa 12:10 Now therefore the sword shall never depart from thine house; because thou hast despised me, and hast taken the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be thy wife.
2Sa 12:11 Thus saith the LORD, Behold, I will raise up evil against thee out of thine own house, and I will take thy wives before thine eyes, and give them unto thy neighbour, and he shall lie with thy wives in the sight of this sun.
2Sa 12:12 For thou didst it secretly: but I will do this thing before all Israel, and before the sun.
2Sa 12:13 And David said unto Nathan, I have sinned against the LORD. And Nathan said unto David, The LORD also hath put away thy sin; thou shalt not die.
2Sa 12:14 Howbeit, because by this deed thou hast given great occasion to the enemies of the LORD to blaspheme, the child also that is born unto thee shall surely die.
2Sa 12:15 ΒΆ And Nathan departed unto his house. And the LORD struck the child that Uriah's wife bare unto David, and it was very sick.
2Sa 12:16 David therefore besought God for the child; and David fasted, and went in, and lay all night upon the earth.
2Sa 12:17 And the elders of his house arose, and went to him, to raise him up from the earth: but he would not, neither did he eat bread with them.
2Sa 12:18 And it came to pass on the seventh day, that the child died. And the servants of David feared to tell him that the child was dead: for they said, Behold, while the child was yet alive, we spake unto him, and he would not hearken unto our voice: how will he then vex himself, if we tell him that the child is dead?
2Sa 12:19 But when David saw that his servants whispered, David perceived that the child was dead: therefore David said unto his servants, Is the child dead? And they said, He is dead.
2Sa 12:20 Then David arose from the earth, and washed, and anointed himself, and changed his apparel, and came into the house of the LORD, and worshipped: then he came to his own house; and when he required, they set bread before him, and he did eat.
2Sa 12:21 Then said his servants unto him, What thing is this that thou hast done? thou didst fast and weep for the child, while it was alive; but when the child was dead, thou didst rise and eat bread.
2Sa 12:22 And he said, While the child was yet alive, I fasted and wept: for I said, Who can tell whether GOD will be gracious to me, that the child may live?
2Sa 12:23 But now he is dead, wherefore should I fast? can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me.
 
And if you will go back & read my post you will see I mentioned consequences just as you did, but I also included many other things the Bible instructs us to do, we should leave out none because of our emotions.
 
I recall a pastor whose son-in-law murdered his daughter, & one of the 1st things he did when visiting him in jail & he confessed to him what he had done was tell him, "I forgive you."
 


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Posted 26 October 2013 - 09:44 AM

Thanks for the prayers. Quick follow up: my sister's children have been assessed by the Child Support Agency and they have concluded that they haven't been abused, which is something.

 

Mention was made about my father assuaging fears by confessing about other victims. My father has claimed there are no other victims, but unfortunately the nature of his confession means it is harder to trust it. If, say, my father had confessed of his own volition with no prompting, it would make more sense to believe all of his story. But because he's only confessed on being confronted, we don't know if he's only confessing as much as he needs to confess, if that makes sense. Anyway, that's why the CSA verdict above is more of a comfort, because unfortunately we don't feel we can take our father at his word.

 

Thanks again for prayers.






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