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Posted 22 June 2014 - 09:51 PM

If  I had 12 tigers, and all but one were as docile as kittens, would you put your teens in the cage with my tigers?  You are playing a game of russian roulette with your teens, imo



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Posted 22 June 2014 - 10:31 PM

She was shock to see two girls kissing. I told her, now you will see the true public schools and the lost at work. Practice now what you have learned in the Christian schools and home, for the US is now turning from God. For what is bad now is good, and the good for them is bad. Find the right friends, for when you attend college you will do well and not be shocked of what is going on around you, for we are living in trouble time. Thanks you for sharing this with me, I told her, you will be much smarter than me. :)

 

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Some members here act like if my teens will pay the price, you will remember my words? They said, and I believe they are a bit to extreme. The public schools do have problems, but there are also benefits in my opinion. 

 

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Support and some understanding, sounds good to me. I am surprise to some of the replys here. I am sending my kids to a evil place are not the right words or true. For not all of them are the same. They are not going to hang out with trouble makers or evil doers. For they are Saved and baptized. 

You ask for support and understanding, however, in your first post, you don't mention why you decided to send your daughter to public school, you just mention she is now going and she is shocked at seeing two girls kissing, and that's why people are responding the way they are. I'm glad you told her she's now going to be seeing the true face of public schools, because believe me, she will be seeing worse once summer school is over and real school begins. You need to prepare her for that.

 

I'd really like to know how you know 100% sure your children will not hang out with trouble makers or evil doers just because they are saved and baptized. When I was in public school I made friends with a girl and while hanging out with her I began questioning the things I learned from my parents and church. She was not goth, gay, a witch, new-agey, or anything else extreme. She was friendly happy type person who at one point told me she was a Christian. But she made me question my faith. It wasn't until I left the public school and was home schooled that I realized how much she had affected me. I have no doubt that if I had stayed there longer, I would've become a rebellious teenager, destroyed my relationship with my parents, and probably would not be a missionary today. 

 

Why don't you explain why you feel you need to send your daughter to public school over both home school and Christian school. How is it better and more beneficial for her? And please leave belittling words out of it. I'm trying to have patience and understanding your viewpoint, but it's really difficult when you keep throwing around insults whenever someone tries to explain home schooling to you. 

 

I've already explained in my first post that I don't think public schools are 'evil', however, God's plan for a child's education begins at the home. If that is truly not possible, then Christian schooling, and public schools as a last resort. 



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Posted 22 June 2014 - 11:30 PM

I am just curious why anyone would want to put their children in any educational system that teaches people to turn from God as our public school systems do today.



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Posted 23 June 2014 - 08:04 AM

Support and some understanding, sounds good to me. I am surprise to some of the replys here. I am sending my kids to a evil place are not the right words or true. For not all of them are the same. They are not going to hang out with trouble makers or evil doers. For they are Saved and baptized.

 

1. I am not going to support something I do not believe in and what I have found to most often be the worst choice of all educational options.

 

2. Perhaps you are seeing a group of people who do understand...many from personal experience, but you are not willing to accept their council because it goes against what you have chosen.

 

3. Since when has being saved and baptized kept someone from feeling the attacks of the devil. It is usually at the time of salvation that Satan goes onto the offensive. He will do so with subtlety through those one may call friend, but none the less they will still lead a Christian astray. And beware what the school requires your child to read. You may be surprised what smut passes for literature these days. 



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Posted 23 June 2014 - 08:43 AM

You are adding to my post, hicks? Did you ever here of country folks and city folks. You added hicks not me.

Because that was the insinuation. Yes, I've heard of country and city folks, and have lived in both. Your unspoken message was that homeschoolers are hicks, whether or not you intended it.  Hence, my warning to stop.  



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Posted 23 June 2014 - 11:00 AM

You ask for support and understanding, however, in your first post, you don't mention why you decided to send your daughter to public school, you just mention she is now going and she is shocked at seeing two girls kissing, and that's why people are responding the way they are. I'm glad you told her she's now going to be seeing the true face of public schools, because believe me, she will be seeing worse once summer school is over and real school begins. You need to prepare her for that.

 

I'd really like to know how you know 100% sure your children will not hang out with trouble makers or evil doers just because they are saved and baptized. When I was in public school I made friends with a girl and while hanging out with her I began questioning the things I learned from my parents and church. She was not goth, gay, a witch, new-agey, or anything else extreme. She was friendly happy type person who at one point told me she was a Christian. But she made me question my faith. It wasn't until I left the public school and was home schooled that I realized how much she had affected me. I have no doubt that if I had stayed there longer, I would've become a rebellious teenager, destroyed my relationship with my parents, and probably would not be a missionary today. 

 

Why don't you explain why you feel you need to send your daughter to public school over both home school and Christian school. How is it better and more beneficial for her? And please leave belittling words out of it. I'm trying to have patience and understanding your viewpoint, but it's really difficult when you keep throwing around insults whenever someone tries to explain home schooling to you. 

 

I've already explained in my first post that I don't think public schools are 'evil', however, God's plan for a child's education begins at the home. If that is truly not possible, then Christian schooling, and public schools as a last resort. 

 

 

This is a very good reply, and normal to my post.

 

1.My kids have been in Christians schools for almost 10 years

 

2.The cost are high for them to continue.

 

3. My wife have college and was a senior accountant, before, but now is disable.

 

4. She does not want to home school, while I work..

 

5.i believe they are some what prepare to deal with the real World.

 

6.i don't like online christian schools, it not the same thing.

 

7.When they grow up and start to work, it will be much easier for them to deal with the real World, that we are living in.


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Posted 23 June 2014 - 11:11 AM

I am not sure, what I am doing is 100 percent.right, but none of us are. Your kids can do very bad, where ever they go to school. Can your daughter get pregnant in a christian school or being home school?  Yes   


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Posted 23 June 2014 - 11:12 AM

Question for you, TGL - have you spent time praying about it?  Have you searched God's Word for support?  Or is it just a decision based on the 7 points above (which, I will have to say: #7 is totally untrue...kids that I know that are homeschooled [and, believe me, I know a whole lot] and kids who have remained in Christian school throughout their education are much better equipped to "deal with the real world")?



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Posted 23 June 2014 - 11:16 AM

Question for you, TGL - have you spent time praying about it?  Have you searched God's Word for support?  Or is it just a decision based on the 7 points above (which, I will have to say: #7 is totally untrue...kids that I know that are homeschooled [and, believe me, I know a whole lot] and kids who have remained in Christian school throughout their education are much better equipped to "deal with the real world")?

 

If I prayed enough about it?  Not enough, men have this problem. 



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Posted 23 June 2014 - 11:18 AM

It would have made allot more sense TGL if you are experimenting with you kids to have put them in public school till 5th or 6th grade and then Christian or Home.

 

What you are doing here is relying on their childhood professions of faith as solid. Rarely are they at these years, young kids believe what the parents believe and do what they think will please their parents. Once they hit 12 or 13, they form their own opinions which will not be yours. In this case they will form the worlds opinions. They will be immersed in the world now. 8 hours a day and you nor your church will be able to compete with that.

 

Since you are gambling with the world, all I can say is "good luck"



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Posted 23 June 2014 - 11:19 AM

Very true LuAnne. Point 7 is way off.

 

Also very true that being much in prayer and in the Word is of highest importance.

 

We have to remember that very often doing the right thing, obeying the Lord, is much more difficult from our limited perspective than doing something else. Even so, doing what God says is always best.



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Posted 23 June 2014 - 11:25 AM

It would have made allot more sense TGL if you are experimenting with you kids to have put them in public school till 5th or 6th grade and then Christian or Home.

 

What you are doing here is relying on their childhood professions of faith as solid. Rarely are they at these years, young kids believe what the parents believe and do what they think will please their parents. Once they hit 12 or 13, they form their own opinions which will not be yours. In this case they will form the worlds opinions. They will be immersed in the world now. 8 hours a day and you nor your church will be able to compete with that.

 

Since you are gambling with the world, all I can say is "good luck"

 

 

 

Thanks, I know this, and I know that you don't believe in luck. When you say good luck. For we as christian don't believe in good luck, but Gods will.



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Posted 23 June 2014 - 11:31 AM

Believing in God's will and abiding in His will are two different things.



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Posted 23 June 2014 - 11:35 AM

If I prayed enough about it?  Not enough, men have this problem. 

Then you ought not do it...enough prayer would allow God to show you that man's logic is not the way to go with this.  Again, it's your decision, but don't be surprised or affronted at the strong reaction against it here. To use man's fallibility as an excuse is inexcusable.



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Posted 23 June 2014 - 11:54 AM

Then you ought not do it...enough prayer would allow God to show you that man's logic is not the way to go with this. Again, it's your decision, but don't be surprised or affronted at the strong reaction against it here. To use man's fallibility as an excuse is inexcusable.




I will go one day at a time. Remember that there are thousands of Christians sending their kids to a public school, and you are telling them the same thing.

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Posted 23 June 2014 - 12:37 PM

I will go one day at a time. Remember that there are thousands of Christians sending their kids to a public school, and you are telling them the same thing.

Nope. This conversation it with you, not the thousands of Christians.  Again, it's your decision. But a decision not bathed in prayer has disaster written all over it from the start - regardless of what it's about !



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Posted 23 June 2014 - 12:42 PM

Nope. This conversation it with you, not the thousands of Christians. Again, it's your decision. But a decision not bathed in prayer has disaster written all over it from the start - regardless of what it's about !


Judge Judy... :)

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Posted 23 June 2014 - 12:50 PM

Judge Judy... :)

Judge Judy would probably be a lot harsher.  You know, TGL, you started this thread. And I believe you started it because you knew the majority of members would not support it.  And you wanted conflict.  You've already been warned once in this thread.  Now you've been warned twice (which is your third warning overall). And you know what three strikes means...



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Posted 23 June 2014 - 01:05 PM

Okay....so I was in public school as a young kid...then in traditional Christian school....then briefly homeschooled, then in a Christian ACE school.   Then I went to school for secondary ed, and have taught five years in various Christian schools.  I have also known a few people in various public schools in more modern times.   My thoughts:

 

1.  If you can avoid public school these days, you should.  Reasons being:  evolution taught, gay agenda taught, English NOT being taught, math standards being reduced, sex and drugs rampant.   When we get public school kids transferred into Christian school, they cannot keep up with the English or Math classes being taught....far below grade level.   I recently chatted with my cousins, who are honors students in their local public school, and they have no clue how to pick apart a sentence in English and tell what the function of each word is, and they haven't had spelling since elementary school.   I recently visited a church that used a different version of the Bible (I was visiting family) and I was able to mentally diagram a few of the verses in my head and pick out differences in the versions that someone who didn't have a good grasp of the English language would never be able to do, to cite one example of why English is still important.  Oh and my honors cousins cannot read very much if written in cursive.   HOWEVER some people cannot afford to homeschool or put their kids in Christian school.  If that is the case, then pray a lot, and spend a lot of time balancing out the filth of public school by having an extra strong family and church life.

 

2.  Christian school is good, and is our choice.  However you cannot lower your guard...lots of filth in Chrisitian school too.  However at least there you end up, usually anyway, with a bit higher quality education, and the social interaction and sports that you would want for your child.  You still need to be vigilant...my kids have learned more from other "Christian" kids than I would prefer they would have learned.

 

3.  Homeschool works for many, not optimal for everyone.   We are choosing to homeschool this coming year for the first time ever, for our youngest, for second grade, using ABeka video.   I'm nervous, but our youngest needs extra attention and is floundering and discouraged in traditional school.    We are hoping to get him caught up for a year or two at home, with the goal of putting him back into school once his test results get more on grade level, and his social ability matures some.   Our oldest three, however, are going to attend Christian school as long as we can, unless something happens with the school (which they are in turmoil this year, big administration changes coming.)

 

 

Schooling is a very personal choice, and the judgement calls really cannot be made by anyone but God.   However, parenting is the responsibility of the parents and not the school, so if a child gets into sin, the fault is the parents AND the child...not the school.  But I firmly believe personally that I should help my child as much as possible by keeping them out of the public school environment.  Plus, the educational quality I'm seeing coming out of public school is NOT good at all, and common core is lowering standards even further IMO.   I'm going to guess that an "honors" student from a public school would struggle with the "regular" classes in many Christian schools.



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Posted 23 June 2014 - 03:30 PM

Reality my friend, are you going to show your teens that all dogs don't bite or that some do bite, beware.

 

Not by letting them get bit!






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